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Parshat Shemot 2013

One can only imagine the surprise and disappointment of Pharaoh, when after decreeing that all the Jewish males that are born should be killed, he realizes that not only is the Jewish population not reducing but is in fact growing at a rapid pace. He realized that the nursemaids were not fulfilling their responsibilities and upholding his decree. The Torah relates that he confronts Shifrah and Puah and asks them why they are bringing life to the Jewish children! The Gemara in Sotah fills in the blanks and explains that he related his frustration by expressing that they were doing the exact opposite of what they were expected to do.

One may ask what exactly the Gemara is trying to add that is not self-evident from the statement of Pharaoh. If he told the nursemaids to kill the Jewish males, and now they were saving them, of course he would be upset that they were bringing life to the Jewish nation. What is this added statement of the Gemara trying to teach us?

A possible answer to this question may be that the Gemara is relating to us an important lesson on perspective. Pharaoh was explaining to them that by not killing, they were in fact giving life. There is no middle ground on this issue. A lack of death is by definition allowing the opposite to thrive. In life, there are very few, if any, opportunities to be “Pareve.” By helping the Jewish cause, Shifra and Puah were hurting the Egyptian aspirations.

Embedded in every act and word is a potential to uplift or cause a fall. The opportunities that each individual has to cause a Kiddush Hashem or Chillul Hashem are infinite. One can only imagine the fear and stress that Shifra and Puah experienced when they disregarded the words of the Emperor, yet they were more concerned with the words of the King of Kings, Hashem. May we merit to always maintain the same perspective and bring about the uplifting of the world.

Parshat Va'era 2013

In this week’s Parsha, Hashem bestows on Moshe the charge to tell Pharaoh that he must let the Jewish people leave Egypt. Moshe answers, “The Jewish people did not listen to me; how will Pharaoh listen, for I am lame in the lips!”

Many commentators point out that Moshe is making a logical deduction that Pharaoh will not listen based on his previous experience with the Jewish People. After all, the Jewish People had not listened to Moshe previously, so why would the leader of the entire country listen to him?! Yet the logic is faulty. The Sfas Emes points out that in the very preceding verse, the Torah tells us that they could not listen to Moshe for they were so engrossed in the difficult, back-breaking labor which was forced upon them. Pharaoh obviously would be able to listen, for this reason did not apply to him. In essence, Moshe didn’t realize that the Jews didn’t listen because of other factors and had nothing to do with his speech limitations. His logic was not beyond reason, yet it was entirely incorrect. He used faulty logic to allow an argument that would free him to evade this responsibility.

Human nature often sends us in directions that are anything but helpful. We need to be aware of this frailty and make sure that our decisions are made only after evaluating facts objectively, rather than allow personal agendas to cloud our ability to evaluate what is truly beneficial and true.

Our generation is more informed and connected than any previous generation. The access to information that is at our fingertips is startling and at times even humbling. I personally find it amazing every time that I inform my sister in Israel about current events that are happening in her own backyard. The speed at which information travels is truly amazing, and this information has the ability to shape our opinions and perspectives. One of the many challenges that faces our generation is recognizing that this information is being transmitted through filters from the media, and we hear and read the information through great amounts of interpretation. All too often, a perception of an event is transmitted rather than the facts of the event. Impartiality is praised, but all too often ignored. Much like Moshe, if one wants to believe something as the truth, that is exactly what he will hear. We would never believe that Moshe intended to ignore or twist the facts that were playing out in front of him, but the Sfas Emes explains that even the greatest of people can make this mistake due to human frailty.

Recently, there have been many emotionally charged debates and discussions that have come to light because of current events. As we read and come to our own opinions on the matters of the day, it is incumbent upon us to recognize that the information we read is often slanted. As Jews, we of course have a slant as well, which is asking ourselves what the opinion of the Torah is in a given situation. This slant should certainly factor in to our calculations after all has been considered as well. May we merit to always make the right decisions and have the proper perspectives carry us through our lives.

Parshat Bo 2013

When one contemplates the ten plagues that were brought upon Egypt, terror can surely ensue. When these Torah portions come around, I often try to think about the difficulties that the Egyptians were going through and how scary it must have been to experience. Yet in the plague of darkness, there was little to no pain inflicted and the results weren’t horrific. Tis plague seems to have left the country in the same state.

The Torah tells us in verse 10:23: “No man could see his brother, nor could anyone rise from his place.” Homiletically, the Chidushei Harim interprets this verse as a hint to the ultimate destruction that was brought upon Egypt.  As the Egyptians afflicted and distressed the Jews for so many generations, their inner psyches were damaged beyond repair. They reached the point of emotional darkness in which they couldn’t recognize that the Jews were people, and under such harsh conditions they were in terrible pain. “No man could see his brother” was a description of their not caring about the suffering nation in their midst. The result was “Nor could anyone rise from his place” - they were incapable of raising their spiritual selves due to their voluntary blinding of themselves.

One could argue that Darkness was not much of a plague compared to the others in terms of the devastation that was wreaked throughout the land. Yet the greatest devastation at times comes from within. One of the scariest moments a person can ever encounter is when a person looks at themselves and asks, “How did I become who I am today…I am not the person I wanted to be.” This disappointment can be a plague that makes lice, hail, and pestilence look like a welcome reprieve. The Egyptians had six days of darkness to think about the utter lack of sensitivity and lack of human dignity that they had shown the Jews over the years and recognize what they had become. In the darkness, they contemplate the realities surrounding them; the state of the Jews and who they had become.

Darkness for the Egyptians was an opportunity that was squandered. In our hectic lives, quiet reveals itself occasionally and is a chance to contemplate where we stand. During this time of year, when the nights are long and the holidays are far from our minds, we have a significant amount of time to think. Very shortly, Purim arrives with Pesach on its heels. Thinking becomes a distant memory and we push to keep up with the daily tasks at hand. Let’s make sure to ask ourselves occasionally, just as the Egyptians did years ago, “Who am I?” and “Is that the answer I was expecting?” Hopefully we will always exceed our expectations!

Parshat Beshalach 2013

My earliest memory of Tu B’Shevat is sitting in class and being pleasantly shocked as the principal of the school entered with a surprise in hand. We had no idea what was in the box, but it is always exciting to receive an unexpected gift. He then started handing out buxer, or what I found out later is actually dried carob. It looked very unappealing, and tasted even worse than it looked. The day improved a little when I came home and had some dried fruit that was more appealing, but dried fruit was never quite my favorite food. For many, Tu B’Shevat is a day that has little more significance than dried apricot and a lack of Tachanun. We say that it is the birthday for the trees, but what does that even mena? Is there more to this special day? What is Tu B’Shevat really all about? The first Mishnah in Rosh Hashana designates Tu B’shevat as the New Year for the trees according to the opinion of Beit Hillel. Practically, this means that the fiscal accounting cycle begins anew for the farmers as they figure out the amount of Terumah and Maaser (tithes) that need to be given to a variety of people. Once these tithes are properly distributed, the remainder of the crop is now deemed “kosher” and may be eaten.

Rabbi Moshe Feinstein explains that the farmer exerted tremendous energy and time to see his field produce its fruits. Once the produce has been harvested, he deserves to partake in the bounty for which he worked so hard. Yet, he is reminded that he must first tithe his income and only afterwards partake. There is no clear recipient of the tithes; as he is permitted to choose the Kohen, Levi, or poor individual who receives his portion. There are no penalties imposed by the courts if he does not tithe, or if he does not tithe properly. He is very much in control of his finances and only answers to his own accounting. Yet he knows in the recesses of his mind that the entire production that he worked so hard for really only belongs to him and is chullin (kosher for anyone to eat) when he does his tithing properly. The date that the accounting was completed and the tithing could truly begin was Tu B’Shevat. This day was a time of tremendous joy for the farmer, as he could say with confidence that he had fulfilled his obligations and could now enjoy the fruits of his labor with a clear conscience.

The joy of Tu B’Shevat is intertwined with the knowledge that we have taken care of our obligations to our country, our community, and those amongst us who are in need. This message is one of the primary manners in which we can have a meaningful Tu B’Shevat. For all of those who enjoy dried fruit and have figured out how to enjoy eating buxer; I wish you a tasty and delightful Tu B’Shvat. Everyone, though, can enjoy the day with the knowledge that we have put the needs of others ahead of our own.

Parshat Yitro 2013

I recall a conversation in Shul between myself, an individual who was very distressed with recent events in his life, and a third individual who was a friend and also happened to work in the field of mental health. The troubled individual poured out his heart and bemoaned that he felt guilty about the feelings that were festering in his heart towards someone who inadvertently had hurt his feelings. During the conversation, the therapist proposed that wrong feelings do not exist, and that we have to approach the feelings as being appropriate by the mere fact that they are being felt. “If the feelings exist, then they are real and must be taken seriously. Only then can they be rectified,” he explained.

His proposition, though, encounters a major challenge in this week’s Parsha. The last of the commandments is “You shall not covet”—a warning against jealousy. Is there anyone who can claim that they have not fallen prey to jealousy?  Jealousy is a basic instinct that seems to manifest itself even in the youngest of children. How can we be expected to suppress this basic behavior of humankind?

The Beit Halevi offers the following explanation. He submits that the fear of Hashem alone should help steer us from this temptation. An example may be someone driving in poor weather conditions with his entire family in the car. He will take extreme care to keep his hands on the wheel and focus solely on the road. Even if one of the children were to point out a very interesting or strange object that is on the side of the road, the driver would ignore it and devote his attention to the drive. Similarly, in our own lives, we have a path that needs to be driven with goals that need to be achieved. Veering off the path would not only divert us from our goals, but it may also have terrible repercussions. Jealousy is the feeling that tries to divert our attention from the road, and we need to have in mind that the effects of losing our focus.

The Ibn Ezra offers an alternative explanation based on a parable of a peasant who would never contemplate the possibility of marrying a princess. He understands that having the princess as his wife is utterly impossible, and he therefore does not bother to even think about being her husband. Similarly, we should train ourselves to appreciate that Hashem has destined that each person should have what is given to them, and everything else is beyond the scope of possibility or reality. In that way, jealousy would not be given a chance to present itself in our minds, just as the peasant could not even contemplate the princess as his wife.

The feelings of jealousy that are so pervasive are certainly “real” and need to be dealt with. Yet we have the ability to proactively take steps to alleviate the future effects that may take root. Having the proper approach to life can actually minimize the ability of the feelings of jealousy to affect our thought, and these steps are very much within our control. May we merit to always keep our focus on the goals that need to be achieved and never be diverted by the pursuits and material possessions of others.

Parshat Mishpatim 2013

This past week, the world heard of the passing of Essie Mae Washington-Williams at the age of 87. Essie Mae, an African-American woman, did not reveal her father’s identity until six months after her father died in 2003. Essie Mae was born out of wedlock, and her father was the late Strom Thurmond, one of the staunchest segregationists in the Senate, continuously attempting to block civil rights legislation. The news of Mrs. Washington-William’s passing occurred at the start of Black History Month, as well as a week before the birthday of Abraham Lincoln. It also happened to be during the week of the reading of Parashat Mishpatim, a section which discusses the Halachot related to slavery. As the saying goes, “timing is everything,” and in this regard, we appreciate that the timing of her passing is very apropos.

Similarly, the Talmud Yerushalmi explains that the law that a master must free his slave in the seventh year, the Shemittah year, was taught to the Jewish people when they were still in Egypt. This rule would not be put into place until they settled the land of Israel, which would not occur for another fifty years! Why was this lesson conveyed so long before the mitzvah was to become relevant on a practical level?

Rabbi Chaim Shmuelevitz learned a powerful message from this statement of the Yerushalmi. He explained that Hashem clearly understood the mentality of the Nation in the moments before the redemption was to occur. The Jewish People were highly in tune with the struggles and sensitivities that should be awarded to a slave. They understood very vividly how a slave dreams and longs for the day that his freedom will be restored. At that moment, they were able to connect to the mitzvah in a fashion that would not be palpable in the same manner in the years to come.

Rabbi Shmuelevitz explains that ideally, we should always place ourselves into the shoes of the recipient of our kindness, just as the Jewish People were very clearly able to connect with the plight of the slave being freed. The concept of a Jewish slave is drastically different than the common perception. The Halacha stresses that the slave was to be treated in a way that would help him retain his honor. He was to be fed before the master, and was not allowed to do certain menial tasks. The Gemara in fact relates that one Rabbi exclaimed that “to own a slave is to own a master!” Nevertheless, losing free household help can be difficult. For this reason, the mitzvah was given to the Jewish People precisely at a time that would negate this feeling—at a time that slavery was still very much a reality.

The lesson of the placement and timing of this mitzvah is still relevant to us today. Before engaging in a mitzvah that affects other people, it is important to step into their shoes and be sensitive to their realities. Very often, this perspective will guide us in a direction give us a perspective that we did not  consider previously. Ultimately, with this attitude, we are a better nation, community, and individuals.

Parshat Terumah 2013

The media has recently been up in arms regarding the United States Postal Service’s decision to no longer provide mail delivery on Saturday. Reactions abound on this issue, with many arguing that it is the least that they could do to address massive deficit issues, while others argue that this service is integral and cannot be reduced. Whenever there is strong reaction to an issue, the reaction speaks to the investment of those that will have their comfortable status quo altered. Even in this day and age of email and social media, snail mail still plays an important role in many people’s lives, and therefore, the reaction is going to be heard loud and clear. I believe that the focus on sealed envelopes and the messages contained within could not have joined the public discussion forum at a more appropriate time in relation to our weekly Parsha.

When describing the dimensions of the Ark, the Torah tells us, “They shall make an Ark of acacia wood, two and a half cubits its length, a cubit and a half its width, and a cubit and a half its height. You shall cover it with pure gold , from within and from without shall you cover it…”

The Author of Peninei Kedem explains that the Aron is gold plated both on the outside and on the inside, yet there is still wood in the middle. The Gemara in Yoma 72b learns from the Aron that a Torah scholar that is not the same on the inside as he portrays himself on the outside is not in fact a Torah scholar. He explains that this is why the Aron is referred to as an Ark of acacia wood and not the Aron of gold. Ultimately, the makeup of a vessel and a person is based on what is inside.

When one receives a letter, the adventure has just begun. The envelope offers very little information, but once it is opened, you start to read the long awaited message, read the anticipated results of a test, or find out how much your bill will set you back. Much like the Aron, whenever we open a letter, we are reminded of what is really important- what is inside. Unfortunately, we do not have the Aron as a daily reminder of this message, but we do have our mail arriving almost daily. As we open our letters, let us let the act of going beyond the surface of an object have a lasting effect on our day.

Parshat Tetzaveh / Purim 2013

Go Green—We have heard the idea so many times. In today’s day and age, our responsibility to reduce pollutants and waste, and thus ensure the Earth’s viability for future generations, has become blatantly clear. When, though, did this movement begin, and is there a Jewish source for the Green Revolution? Furthermore, what does the Green Revolution have to do with the DAT Minyan Purim Edition Newsletter?

The Megilla states in 2:7: “And he had brought up Hadassah, that is Esther, his uncle's daughter.” The Gemara in Megilla 13a debates which of the names, Esther or Hadassa, was primary and which was a nickname. Six opinions on the matter are proposed. Ben Azai, the third of the opinions quoted, states that Esther was nicknamed Hadassah, as her stature was very average, much like a Haddas (myrtle branch). Rabbi Yehoshua ben Karcha teaches that Esther was her true name, but she was nicknamed Hadassah, as she resembled a Haddas with her green skin. When we juxtapose these two opinions alongside the Midrash Rabbah that teaches that Esther was seventy five years old at the time, we are left wondering why Achashverosh was so stricken by the physical attributes of a seventy-five-year-old with average physical appearance and green skin! Achashverosh was the leader of the entire world and had access to every available woman in the land. What led him to choose Esther?

The answer can perhaps be found several verses later when Esther is summoned to Achashverosh. All of the other women had arrived before him and he fulfilled their every request (Verse 13—“Then with this the maiden would come to the king; whatever she would request would be given to her”), yet Esther requested nothing (Verse 15—“Now when the turn of Esther, the daughter of Abichail, Mordecai's uncle, who had taken her for a daughter, came to go in to the king, she requested nothing”). Her actions could certainly have been understood as a sign of disobedience or lack of gratitude. Yet neither her disobedience, age, average appearance, nor green skin caused disdain in the eyes of Achashverosh. Odd.

An answer begins to develop when we examine why Esther was chosen. In verse 17, we see that Achashverosh loved Esther more than the other women. She was the one who “found more favor and kindness” than any of the other women. She showed compassion in excess, and Achashverosh noticed her exemplary traits. Where and how did she show these traits?

The answer to this question can be found in the requests that she noticeably did not make. She recognized that Persia at that time was insensitive to the environment and unconcerned with issues related to nature. Being the Torah observant and sensitive Jew that she was, Esther began her own Green Revolution. While all the other women were interested in the physical pleasures offered by the gas guzzling appliances and inefficient energy machines of the time, Esther wanted no part. While the other women indulged in oils and cosmetics that were unapproved by the environmental agencies of the time for the sake of impressing Achashverosh, Esther needed to be forced under duress to anoint herself.  Furthermore, to clearly demonstrate her lack of approval with Persia’s lack of sensitivity to the environment, she appeared in public painted in green—just as a myrtle branch.  She became known as Hadassah, the environmentalist, and she inspired all who saw her determination to keep our Earth free of toxins and pollutants. Achashverosh was so smitten by her determination to save our planet, that he looked past the fact that she was not necessarily physically special or unique. Her “chessed” for the environment set her aside from  all of the other fair maidens of the land, and set her course to be the heroine of the Jewish people, and perhaps one of the saviors of our Earth as we know it.

Parshat Ki Tisa 2013

There are times that we mess up in life, and then there are times that colossal mistakes are made. One could easily argue that one of the greatest of the colossal mistakes that we as a Jewish people ever committed was in this week’s Parsha, when the Jewish People fashioned the golden calf. Following this tragic occurrence, Hashem told Moshe that the Nation was to be destroyed entirely and begun anew from him. Moshe prayed to Hashem to have mercy and compassion, and we as a Nation were spared. One of the reasons that we are all alive today is because Moshe used the perfect argument and prayers at the perfect time. It is incumbent upon us all to appreciate and study these words, take the lessons that are within, and incorporate them into our own lives.

In a fascinating Midrash, Rabbi Levi points out that Moshe evoked the promise that Hashem had made previously to Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov, as the verse says:

“Remember Abraham, Isaac, and Israel, Your servants, to whom you did swear, and said unto them: I will multiply your seed as the stars of heaven, and all this land that I have spoken of will I give unto your seed, and they shall inherit it forever.”

He explains that Moshe asked Hashem, Are the dead really alive? Will they not come back from the dead? Hashem responded to the question by asking whether Moshe had become a heretic who denies that the resurrection of the dead will occur at the end of days. At this point, Moshe asked Hashem how it is possible, then, that Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov will be resurrected and the promise that their children will become great and populous will never have occurred!

This argument was so potent and powerful that Hashem allowed the Jewish People to continue despite their terrible sin. This statement is one that often rings true in my own mind. Presenting an image or perception, and living up to our own words and actions is a challenge that we all struggle with at times. However, at the end of the day, we are our own best enforcers.

Since I have become affiliated with the DAT Minyan and the Denver Academy of Torah, I have heard from so many people about the unique and wonderful relationship that is shared between the two institutions. I personally benefit from working closely with the school and seeing the wonderful and devoted administrators and teachers who enrich our children and our community. My personal sentiments have been echoed by many families and individuals who also recognize the important role that the school plays in the thriving environment in which we find ourselves. These sentiments carry tremendous weight, as they are more than words. They are statements which we must live up to. If something is of value to us, we must support it when it calls.

The school is having its Annual Dinner this Sunday, and there are still seats available. It is time for all of us who benefit from the Denver Academy of Torah to show that the benefit is something we are committed to maintain and help flourish. To make a reservation for the dinner, email Kathy Bashari at kbashari@datcampus.org and express your gratitude and support.

Parshat Vayakhel-Pikudei 2013

How  will it all get done? How can I prepare for Pesach in time while still being a good parent/spouse/child/neighbor? How can I juggle all the responsibilities of home life while still putting in my all at work? How do I do all of these preparations and still enter into Pesach in a festive mood, truly happy to see the holiday arrive as opposed to being terrified by the prospect of watching Erev Pesach ebb away?

When the Torah describes the individuals who designed and built the Mishkan, the words that are used are that they were “Chachmei Lev”—wise of heart. The obvious question is that intellect and wisdom do not emanate from the heart but rather from the mind. What is the Torah trying to teach us from this strange description of their credentials?

On numerous occasions, I remember Rabbi Meir Goldvicht, a Rosh Yeshiva in Yeshiva University, explaining in class that the Jews leaving Egypt were not worthy of receiving higher educations in the finest educational institutions. They were slaves who were the children of slaves, and throughout their lives were treated as such by the Egyptians. When they left Egypt in miraculous fashion, they lived magical lives in which their needs were provided straight from Hashem. In Egypt they didn’t have the chance to receive an education, and in the desert there was no use for the skills that the education would have provided. Their shelter, sustenance, and protection were clearly provided from above. This reality did not pose much of a problem until the commandment to build a Mishkan. These former slaves were suddenly charged with the construction of a complex structure and its intricate vessels. How exactly were they to be expected to complete this seemingly impossible task?

Rabbi Goldvicht explains that the answer lies within the phrase Chochmei Lev. These were not individuals who necessarily contained the intellectual knowledge to complete the task, yet they did have the wisdom of the heart—namely, the motivation. They understood that they would not have been charged with this mission unless Hashem believed that they could complete it. This belief carried them through the entire challenge until the completion of the Mishkan.

Often in life, we face challenges that seem insurmountable. We think that we do not have the tools, knowledge, or abilities to complete the task. Yet with motivation and belief in Hashem, we can surely overcome great odds and accomplish great achievements. If slaves can build a Mishkan, then we should not devalue our own potential to see the tasks ahead of us be completed. May we all have a Chag Kasher V’Sameach!

Sun, May 19 2024 11 Iyyar 5784